14 Hidden Causes of Anger and How You Can Deal With Them

Anger can affect your mental and physical health if you don’t cage it.

Qasim Adam
Change Becomes You

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Have you ever been drinking a cup of coffee and suddenly, you’re in the middle of an argument with your significant other? Are you struggling with anger management?

Don’t worry. This article will show you the different sources of your anger, how they cause the fire in your belly, and how to deal with it.

It is difficult to control your anger. It doesn’t matter whether you have been criticized, bullied, or lied to — anger can sneak up on you at any moment, even in the most ordinary situations.

Anger is a commonly discussed topic, but it’s important to understand the many risk factors behind this emotion. Recognizing your triggers can go a long way toward preventing the anger from spiraling out of control.

Everyone has triggers that make them feel an emotion, and for some people, anger is one of them. With so many factors behind anger, it’s easy to lose control of our emotions and let things get too heated.

Anger is an unwanted emotion that can drive you the wrong way and lead you to do things that you’ll later regret. There are always ways to work through it and learn from the experience.

If anger doesn’t go away on its own, find out why exactly it’s hiding in your system and deal with it head-on! Anger is a very deep emotion, and many people are afraid to delve into the root causes of their anger, but it might be the biggest key to figuring out how they can deal with it.

This is a guide that helps readers understand why they’re feeling angry and what they can do to escape from the prison of angry episodes.

The Impact of Anger on Your Mental, Emotional, and Physical Health

There are several physical and mental health problems that can arise from anger. It can lead to issues such as hypertension, heart disease, stroke, and many more.

Anger is a natural human emotion that is often used as a way to release stress. However, it has been found that people who experience anger often have a harder time controlling their emotions and tend to be more aggressive in their actions.

Anger can be a good thing if it is used as a force for good. But when it starts to take over your life, it can be harmful. Anger can be a very difficult emotion to manage. It can lead to stress, anxiety, and burnout which can have a negative impact on your mental, emotional, and physical health.

Burnout is exhaustion of enthusiasm and motivation caused by chronic stress or overwork. It can result in impaired work performance, increased errors, decreased productivity, high levels of fatigue/exhaustion, and feelings of resentment towards one’s job or colleagues.

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14 Hidden Causes of Anger

People often think of anger as a sudden, intense emotion that is difficult to control. However, there are many hidden causes of anger that people rarely think about. These causes can be anything from a person’s personality, to the current state of the world.

14 hidden causes of anger:

  1. People who don’t listen to you

Sometimes people just won’t listen to what you want them to do and it makes you feel really frustrated.

2. People who make you feel like your time is not important

If someone doesn’t spend enough time with you or they’re too busy, they might make you feel like they don’t care about how much time you spend with them.

3. Unfulfilled promises

When people don’t keep their promises you start to feel like they’re not trustworthy and get a lot of negative feelings about it.

4. Lack of support from loved ones

If you don’t have someone who is there for you and supports your decisions, it might make you feel really frustrated. It takes so much energy to try to have constant support from just one person.

5. Lack of respect from those around you

Sometimes things happen with people who are close to you that might make you feel like they don’t respect your decisions or don’t care about what you want.

6. Lack of sleep

When you don’t get a lot of sleep, it can make you really angry and it might lead to some other negative emotions.

7. People who make you feel like you are not good enough

If someone criticizes you, puts you down, or makes you feel like you’re not good enough it can really make you angry.

8. Unintentionally hurtful words

Sometimes people say things when they don’t realize it’s actually hurtful or makes you feel really bad about yourself and you have to start talking to them about it because they might not know what they’re doing.

9. Something that triggers a memory of past trauma

People might be triggered by something in the present and it makes them feel really angry and that can cause a lot of stress.

10. Friendship tests

Sometimes people find that when they’re feeling really down, friends start acting differently and going about their lives without them. This can be very frustrating and sad because you feel like your friends aren’t there for you and you might be left with a lot of negative feelings about people who were once really close to you.

11. Feeling powerless

When someone makes you feel like your power is not recognized or when there’s a lot of uncertainty about the future, it can make people feel really powerless and angry.

12. Someone who blames your actions or intentions

If someone blames your actions or intentions, it can make you feel very angry because they’re putting a lot of blame on you.

13. Someone who takes advantage of you

If someone takes advantage of you or they do something that makes you feel bad, it can make them angry as well.

14. Lack of love

Sometimes, people just don’t feel enough love from others and it can make them angry.

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How to deal with anger

Anger management is an important skill that everyone should learn. There are many ways of managing anger without having to resort to medication or therapy. Here are some tips:

- Take time out for yourself

- Practice deep breathing

- Try meditation — Exercise

- Do something that you enjoy

- Talk to a close friend or family member about your feelings

- Take deep breaths and count backward from 10

- Try to stop and think or pay attention to what you are doing or thinking

- Talk or write about your feelings

- If you are too angry to talk, try using a journal

- If you are too angry to write, just physically do something that takes your mind off of the anger

- Use self-talk

- Try to keep a good sense of humor about it.

Takeaway

Sometimes hidden anger can be displayed when people don’t get what they want from us. If people don’t get the thing that they want from us because we didn’t do what they asked, it can make them get angry with us and even more frustrated by our actions.

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Qasim Adam
Change Becomes You

Blogger, author, and freelancer. Top writer on Medium in Love, Life Lessons, Psychology, Parenting, and Relationships.